Friday, 11 June 2010

say She’z all that

Can two walk together except they agree..? one popular rhetoric .. I feel like arguing that the answer is yes . . I have the feeling I’m not alone.. maybe you know number of people.. who act like the answer is yes..I don’t know what they believe.. but when I find people acting yes.. I want to believe that they have also agreed with the person inside them that the answer is yes..

O.k so two are walking together, this lady who is very resourceful is in a union with a guy who is not resourceful in any way and is not willing to be..if the lady is reasonable.. its only logical to think that even though they are walking together now…the walk is a doomed expedition....this lady knows that God is her ultimate source of energy, wisdom and resources therefore her relationship with God is of a great importance to her and it shows in her character, so lets say she walks with a Man who doesn’t see a relationship with God as something that should be prioritized..and no, he’s not an agnostic in any way. They could definitely live together for some time and realize they are not working out..because their decisions will not rhyme a good number of times.. or they could even live with each other like that for years, but one of them at least will know that they are not getting the best from the relationship, now it becomes a fight between her happiness and her “married” status..could be a tough one.. and I don’t see the point of any relationship..that’s depriving either of the parties their happiness..

O.K so now I’ll answer the question again..Can two walk together, except they agree .. I’ll YES, but what is the point of walking with someone who always slows you down and reduces your altitude .lol .Its a robust “No” people, if we want to value our lives and make the best of it. No abeg.

So when proverbs talks about this woman and the way she runs her life and that of her family.. I feel its just apropos to talk about the man beside this woman..

I saw something interesting, I never knew it was there, I always thought the the whole of pro31 was talking about the woman.., then I asked myself.. havnt I read this chapter before.. cos If I read and forgot I’ll know.. but here It was like it had just been included..o.k well.. It was talking about ..whispers** alcohol…..i guess we can take some as long as we don’t get drunk.. maybe we should read what it says..

 The words of King Lemuel, the strong advice his mother gave him:
"Oh, son of mine, what can you be thinking of!
   Child whom I bore! The son I dedicated to God!
Don't dissipate your virility on fortune-hunting women,
   promiscuous women who shipwreck leaders.
"Leaders can't afford to make fools of themselves,
   gulping wine and swilling beer,
Lest, hung over, they don't know right from wrong,
   and the people who depend on them are hurt.
Use wine and beer only as sedatives,
   to kill the pain and dull the ache
Of the terminally ill,
   for whom life is a living death.
"Speak up for the people who have no voice,
   for the rights of all the down-and-outers.
Speak out for justice!
   Stand up for the poor and destitute!" Proverbs 31: 1 – 9

   then look at verse 23 veeeerry briefly .. ;)

    Her husband is well known at the city gates,
         where he sits with the other civic leaders. Proverbs 31:23

These are what a King says his mother told him, and we all know how we’ll listen to a Bill Gates, President Obama when they say , whispers** let me tell you how to get to the top.

So lets say the pro31 woman has been a good student of God’s word, which then makes her a wise person and kind as well (v 26) , Lets say she has a good attitude and doesn’t grumble (v 25), lets say she knows how much she’z been blessed with skills and abilities and she does her best to maximize them (vv 13, 1-18, 24) , lets say she knows that God is her source of everything, and this makes her confident which makes her family to also trust her because they know she has thier best interest in mind (vv 15- 11).

Lets say she’z all that.. I find it hard to imagine that a man who doesn’t value this qualities will be able to stay by her through their lives. Clearly he man in verse 28 values her quite well. Hmm so maybe there’s a certain kind of man that’s supposed to be beside the famous virtuous woman, not maybe, certainly, for to have any kind of man alongside her would be her trading her happiness in life for that man.

Life is all about giving, and if this woman with all her worth (v10) decides to be with a man. I think its just reasonable for the man to respect and value her by being the kind of man she can and always respects.


Jaycee said... don't know how much I enjoyed reading and learning about what kind of "man" the proverbs 31 woman should be. Everyone always focuses on the woman, but can two walk together except they agree?

I really loved this. Thanks Simeon.

oluSimeon said...

a lot of thanks to those who birthed this particular blogfest.. thank God for you all

Gee said...

Nice illustration!
me too I never really notices the part of King Lemuel till we atrted writing about it--and the way u joined both that early verse with the vers 23--PERFECT!!!
Loved this--nd its always interesting to read these thing from a man's point of view!!

BSNC said...

i actually learned something new form this post. Thanks for this post. how have you been?

Reverence said...

This was really really good.

did you leave facebook?

jhazmyn said...

A mans perspective, and I love it....she can't afford to be wit just any Tom,dick or harry...I like to think she's smart enuf to know that ;).

2cute4u said...

I enjoyed reading! and I'm changing for that better,lol.
Similar to what jaycee wrote..

oluSimeon said...

thanks Gee.. i was surprised when I saw that part.. thanks again for coming.

hmmmm BSNC..i've been good o. what about you..been a good while..good to read from you again..
mind sharing the lesson you learnt? :)

Revereenncceeeeee ... thanks a lot.. and..yeah.. left fb..dont know if i'll go back.. hope you cool..?

yes o jhazmyn.. she'll always be smart if she listens and obeys the holy spirit.. thanks for coming..

oluSimeon said...

hmm 2cute4 me.. as long as we have life.. we can always get better.. the Lord is your strength..

Adejoh Momoh said...

Cool: never saw it in that light...

Myne Whitman said...

This is a different perspective alright and makes a lot of sense. Sometimes I answer yes too but it depends on what they have to agree on. Thanks for sharing.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for stopping by...
I couldnt agree more with your take on it! A wonder woman needs a wonder man too, else how can two walk together if they be un-equally yoked...? It's a blessing to hear a man's view on this. thank you.

Fabulo-la said...

I loved this totally!
and the tittle too!

My own interpretation?
How will a woman who is 'all that' walk with a man who is not lest they agree?

Damn right her husband is all that and more!

Gosh I rlly loved this!

NoLimit said...

Hmmm True words!!!

BBB said...

someone also referred to the advice his mother gave him, i didnt read that earlier, but this blogfest gas thought me a lot
a proverbs 31 woman deserves a proverbs 31 man, cos
if she has a lazy unappreciative man, it would be hard to bloom under those circumstances

oluSimeon said...

@ Adejoh... good to know you see something different..

@ Myne .. well, there's always room for a lil negotiation between the two people involved.. they need to be happy at the end..

@yetitweets ..thank you yeti, the troubles of an un-equal yoke ain't moin-moin..

@Fabulo-la.. thanks o, there'll be a reduced number of break-ups if people follow this principle..

@NoLoimit.. thanks ma'am

@BBB.. yeah.. if they ain't on same wavelength. its alwyas goin to be trouble..glad to know you've learnt a lot..i have too..

cheers everyone.. God help us all..

Dee! said...

I think, there must be some sort of agreement before walking together.

Proverbs 31... Interesting!
You know, I never really saw it that way! You brought a new meaning to that Chapter! Thanks a bunch!

Stay blessed!

GoHard said...

wow...really loved reading this. The title was awesome. I pray that God grants p.31 women, p. 31 men.

Beulah! said...

Oh beautiful!!!...this blessed my soul!

Berean Girl said...

Good to get a guy's perspective on this... So is it safe to say there is a particular kind of man fit for the Prov. 31 woman or does the Man become so by association with her?

oluSimeon said...

@ Dee!.. for sure..the wedding vows and ceremony.. are supposed to be the final part of the negotiation and agreement.. bur these days.. we seem to just care bout the ceremony..

GoHard.. Amen.. but that some times it doesn't just work out like 2 + 2 = 4 :) ..

Beulah.. we thank God for that..

Berean Girl...hmm..lovely question that doesn't really have a straight forward answer.. naturally we are all supposed to work on ourselves to some extent.. before taking on the family commitment.. in some cases the man might become so by associating with her( no guarantees here)..and the safer thing is to generally roll with someone who is of a like mind.. who takes the Bible as the final authority over his/her life.

T.Notes said...

Funny its my 1st time being around here. Reading around n liking what i see.
Deep water stuff...
P.S title's rightly fitting n content's right on cue!

Anonymous said...

Wow, I'm so glad I read this. I love the different perspective and I believe that it takes a good man to determine a good woman.

Tisha said...

saw this
liked it
i guess these are the sacrifices
she wants to make
everyone has their values i guess

oluSimeon said...

uncle T.Notes.. thanks for finding your way here.. :)..

maid of heart.. yeah,,. totally agree with you..

Tisha..yeah.. we all have our values but why will anyone want to sacrifice their happiness.. i'm also thinking it's supposed to be a life commitment.. more often than not.. most people don't know the weight of what they are getting into and what the consequences are..
thanks for stopping by..

miss.fab said...

I don't think two people can walk together unless they are one, and you're right, this is the main reason a lot of marriages keep failing. The Bible has lots of sound, good advice for how marriages should work, what to look for in a husband/wife, how to raise kids, etc, but no. Everybody thinks they're smart and they can do things their own way. Cosign with all the comments and your post jare

oluSimeon said...

lol miss.fab .. yeah.. everyone thinks we are smart enough to handle dem issues.. if only will stick with the manual..

Anonymous said...

It's so refreshing to hear about the Prov 31 man. Thanks for sharing this perspective.

Naija American Girl said...

I like that. Na true talk.